The Basics of Writing a Eulogy or Funeral Speech

Writing a speech for a funeral can be an overwhelming task, especially during this stressful time. We’ve made it easier by breaking it down into three phases:

  • Getting Started

  • After Writing

  • Delivery

Getting Started
Slow down
– Think of the good times with the person. Take note of any themes that arise.

Brainstorm – Start by writing down anything that comes to mind about the deceased: special memories, personality traits, hobbies, activities, etc. It might be a good idea to write an outline for your eulogy to make sure you fit everything in.

Write for yourself – Make sure that you are not writing the speech filled with things other family and friends want you to say, but say the things that you want to say. Use this opportunity to reflect on your loved one’s life and make it part of the grieving process.

Use other writings – Make sure that you consider other writings such as poems, lyrics, quotes or scripture verses for your speech, it can add a personal touch.

Write a draft – Clear every distraction from your house and write your speech.

After Writing
Put your speech aside for a while to ask a few people close to the deceased their opinion. Revise your speech if necessary.

The more prepared you are the less stressed you will be while delivering the speech. Remember that no one will judge your public speaking abilities while you deliver a eulogy to honor a loved one.